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Diary
By Alice Pulley (Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:21:30 AM EST) (all tags)
...the sweetest song that I can sing,
Oh baby,
Oh baby.

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My weekend.
DVD Reviews - Jarhead, Lord of War.
Inevitable woman stuff.



A weekend which I was looking forward to with a certain amount of trepidation was actually pretty good. Partly, I feel, this is because my consumption of alcohol (etc) was strictly limited and I feel very healthy this morning - which is nice for a Monday.

Friday evening, had a really chilled out one. Friend brought a coupla of DVD's round so we had a couple of beers and watched them. Due to having a fairly late night on Thursday (which involved the badness) was fairly tired so crashed pretty early. Did manage to watch the IT crowd, new sitcom from Father Ted guy. Thought it was pretty good all in all, bearing in mind it usually takes me a while to warm up to new characters etc in a comedy, found a few bits really funny (especially the scene with the fire - the set up with the phone number was pretty good and evoked memories of set ups from FT).

Saturday in the day, I was looking after my niece again. Picked her up in the morning from ballet classes which I got to early in order that I could a) look at the cuteness which is my niece dancing and b) look at the cuteness which is her ballet teacher dancing. We went and grabbed a post dancing drink (me hot chocolate, her chocolate milkshake) then got the bus back to my sisters. We then had a thoroughly competitive afternoon playing Guess Who (which my niece thought was pronounced 'Guess Woo' until I explained the whole wh thing), followed by Dora Scrabble and finally the Barbie Princess game (the rules to which frankly escaped me). Whilst she had a nap, I cleaned out my sisters goldfish (which appeared to be trying to throw itself out of its filthy water) and also deiced the freezer bit on her fridge (mainly as there were mini-milks in there and I couldn't get the door open to get at them).

Saturday evening, went to the pub for a couple pints with a mate, then back round to mine for another quiet evening in and another early night.

Sunday, C came round to help me lay the new flooring in my bathroom. Now, if I do say so myself, we have done a very professional job, hardly anywhere can you spot any joins, even round the fiddly to cut bits.

All in all a very sensible, constructive weekend.

DVD Reviews
Jarhead. Thought this was very very good. Loved the fact that there was very little violence and loved the performance by Jake Gyllenhal. Thought the guy who played his spotter was excellent (the actor whose name escapes me is also in another favourite of mine Garden State and is excellent in that also). Don't want to issue any spoilers but would recommend thoroughly as a surprisingly honest hollywood depiction of US army life.
Lord of War. Bit older this one so not going to worry too much about spoilers. Basically, I thought this was disappointing. Still thought it was good but thought the potential was there to be excellent. I think there was too much emphasis on the black comedy (eg his brother) and not enough was done with Yuris moral ambiguity. Brilliant, brilliant (horrible) opening sequence though.

Women.
Convoluted as ever. Despite only seeing her twice and being at serious pains not to rush into anything, am getting lots of scary texts and calls from the Spanish girl. Everytime shes off work (even if its for a couple of hours) she calls me to see if I'm free. Yesterday, I didn't reply to a text she sent because I was in the middle of doing my bathroom floor. By the time I picked my phone up I had 2 further texts asking if she had done anything wrong and if I was upset with her. I received a further text at 2:30am this morning saying she missed me and wished she was with me. SEEN HER TWICE. For fucks sake. Am going to tell her I can't see her anymore as she seems keen for something more than I want. Arrggghh.

C was very helpful doind the floor yesterday, fortunately she is pretty arty and was able to do the tricksy cuts with relative ease. As recomspense I made her some dinner which we ate together whilst watching Peep Show on DVD. Had to make myself not watch her instead. Sigh. I have asked her if she is free sometime next week for a couple of beers in order to non-aggresively keep pushing my cause. Must not propose, must not propose, must not propose.

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Spanish Girl == Bunny Boiler by codemonkey uk (4.00 / 1) #1 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:27:47 AM EST


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developer of ... ?


Well, duh. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #3 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:31:05 AM EST


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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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In which case, by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #5 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:35:00 AM EST
Don't forget to keep carrots, celery and onions handy. Rabbit stew is much nicer with those added.

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Ho ho ho. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #7 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:36:06 AM EST
Comedian.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Fangyouverymuch by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #11 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 06:15:14 AM EST
I'mhereall, well, far too much, anyway. Maybe I should write a whinge about my health to explain why I've got so little else to do. Or maybe I'll just allude to the rest of my life, like normal.

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Up to you... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #12 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 06:18:34 AM EST
...if you don't tell us what you're doing, I have to use The Power of my Imagination to make stuff up.

(Envisages Ambrosen as proud Mother of new Rogerborglet)

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Correct. by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #14 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 07:34:38 AM EST
What else have I been doing?

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Uhm... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #15 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 07:39:21 AM EST
......this?

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Jumping the gun by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #19 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:21:50 AM EST
That one's for next week.

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celery? by Dr H0ffm4n (2.00 / 0) #36 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 11:41:58 AM EST
you sicko!

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Spanish girl by nebbish (4.00 / 1) #2 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:29:06 AM EST
Woah, scary! Finish it now!

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It's political correctness gone mad!


Don't worry, going to. by Alice Pulley (4.00 / 1) #6 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:35:27 AM EST
I stand, once more, confused as to why I feel guilty about a situation where I don't think I have done anything wrong. I certainly haven't led her on (the most romantic I have done is telling her she has pretty eyes - which to is hardly a proposal of marriage) and have deliberately not acquiesced to her requests to see more more often so as not to manufacture a situation where it seems I am in interested in anything serious.

In summary: piss.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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The hardest bit by nebbish (2.00 / 0) #9 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:40:49 AM EST
Is telling her the reason. I tend to go for an out-and-out lie.

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It's political correctness gone mad!
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I am starting to believe that lying is good. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #10 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:44:35 AM EST
Being honest and trying to be nice seems to keep fucking me up.

Of course, I could be really honest and admit I am still in love with my ex. That should do the trick, although could cast me in the tortured soul who needs rescuing bracket.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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If you're not going to see someone again by nebbish (4.00 / 2) #13 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 06:23:28 AM EST
Lying is a perfectly good answer I reckon. The still in love with your ex thing is bound to work though...

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It's political correctness gone mad!
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I'd suggest by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #21 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:35:59 AM EST
"It's not you, it's me."

And then maybe taking as much of a break from dating as you can and developing other projects such as a bit more errm, DIY. I do mean this pretty seriously actually.

But obviously, it is her, not you.

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Yeah, I think you're right. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #22 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:44:03 AM EST
About both things. Need to stop meeting women when basically, I don't really want to.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Up to a point by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #27 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:11:51 AM EST
I was more thinking that you need to work out what you need for yourself rather than having to continually figure yourself out in terms of someone else.

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Fair comment... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #30 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:31:49 AM EST
...the only things I'll say that:

a) I get really lonely really easily. It's amazing how much you can miss being held by someone when it doesn't happen for a while.

b) I have worked out a lot of things for myself, I really have, its just that one of them happens to be I want to be with someone who doesn't now want to be with me. Ignoring that certainly didn't help so I have to accept it and live as best I can. Part of that is not letting it cripple me and part of it is just to quietly try and make progress with her. Even if I do just want to propose.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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On those items. by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #34 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 10:36:55 AM EST
a) I believe I do know that. Fortunately most of my friends are tactile sorts, so at least I get bodily contact. And my brother in law has a way of greeting me that involves feeling up my nipple, so I even get that kind of stimulus (even though I try and avoid him, for that reason among others).

b) I didn't want to seem critical, especially given the amount my life has been going round in circles and my aims changing every time I'm on the brink of actually doing something about it (and this is just me getting a real job and a proper social life (let alone how much I fluffed the most recent chance to ask out teh hot chixxor friend I was obsessing about in August)).

So, good luck on sorting out where you stand with C. Remember that all DullTrev is worried about is not having anyone to tease you setting yourself up for a fall.

Arse. It's difficult being a grown up, isn't it?

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Very, very true. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #35 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 11:38:30 AM EST
Although the things that I have to moan about now, are, when I take the time to think about, pretty insignificant compared to some of the things I've had to moan about previously. I think thats progress...

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Well, by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #38 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 11:52:23 AM EST
At least you've got something to moan about. That's the important thing.

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Also, I forgot to mention. by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #43 Tue Feb 07, 2006 at 03:51:40 PM EST
Don't forget the dates with the super cute ballet and Guess Who girl. She sounds cool.

And cuddles from toddlers are even more unconditional than cuddles from lovers, if in an obviously very different category of emotional comfort (I hasten to add.).

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If you want, by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #4 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:32:27 AM EST
I've got a spare engagement ring I can post you, so you can not give it to her. It's nothing special though. And no, I don't have anything helpful to add about your love life.

Your sister is inhumane. Fancy keeping the Mini Milks stuck in an icebound freezer compartment.



Even worse: by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #8 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 05:40:44 AM EST
THERE WAS ONLY ONE STRAWBERRY ONE. Bitch.

Just to save you the postage, I can use the Power of my Imagination to pretend I have a ring and simply not give her the imaginary one instead. Shit.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Huh by spiralx (2.00 / 0) #41 Tue Feb 07, 2006 at 08:22:15 AM EST
Vanilla ones are the best.


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They are still good... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #42 Tue Feb 07, 2006 at 09:15:13 AM EST
But strawberry rocks...

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Peter Sarsgaard be his name by MohammedNiyalSayeed (4.00 / 2) #16 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 07:55:19 AM EST

Which I know only because I looked it up after I saw the movie, having been stunned by how much that dude looks like my cousin-in-law.

And just in case DullTrev is busy today, DOOOOOOOOOOMED!!!!111


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peter sarsgaard == the best by tps12 (4.00 / 1) #17 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:13:54 AM EST
You may also have enjoyed his performances in Shattered Glass and Kinsey.



Haven't seen either... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #18 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:18:17 AM EST
...but may well check them out now...

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Um by DullTrev (2.00 / 0) #20 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:32:38 AM EST

would recommend thoroughly as a surprisingly honest hollywood depiction of US army life
When were you in the US Army?

Funny how a girl phoning you up a lot is an example of stalking, but you hanging round your ex-girlfriend isn't. Oh, and

Yesterday, I didn't reply to a text she sent because I was in the middle of doing my bathroom floor
with your ex-girlfriend. Did that have any relation on your willingness to reply?


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DFJ?


A tactical error by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #23 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:46:40 AM EST
It'd make much more sense to answer the texts and make the ex jealous.

That said, obviously I'm not in a position to be advising on what anyone should do with their love life.

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No! by DullTrev (2.00 / 0) #24 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:53:34 AM EST

Bad ambrosen! Don't encourage him! He'll never learn if you keep being sympathetic to his delusional antics.


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DFJ?
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Point by point: by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #25 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 08:56:05 AM EST
  1. I spent several years undercover in the US military, attempting to uncover evidence of pedantry*.
  2. Bombarding someone you barely know with phone calls and texts is not the same as wanting to spend time with someone you've known and loved for several years. Both things have a name, I'm not sure its the same.
  3. No, no more so than the other 3 or 4 people who phoned/texted when I was in the middle of doing this who I also ignored because I turned my phone off. Also, C knew I had been out with this girl as I told her - I don't know how to tell if this was out of honesty or an attempt to cause subconcious jealously.
*OK, in as far as TV/Newspaper/Web articles have given me a feel for the situation it feels honest. If we are not allowed to have opinions on things we have not personally experienced, well, shut up then.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Counterpoint by counterpoint: by DullTrev (2.00 / 0) #26 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:05:24 AM EST

  1. No, you just need to say "It appears to be an accurate..." rather than stating it as a fact. Yes, I have been very pedantic recently, it's not just you that has suffered.
  2. The cause of the first is deluding oneself that the relationship is more than it appears. The cause of the second one is... erm, wait a minute...
  3. Colour me unconvinced.
Then again, I spent my weekend doing fuck all, and next weekend I'll be in Birmingham. Maybe a fantasy life is better than none...

And you know we all love you really. Sorry, this reply just seems harsh, it's not meant to be.


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DFJ?
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Let's meet up, I'm in by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #28 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:17:10 AM EST
Oh, I'm in London next weekend.

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Countercounterpoint to Counterpoint. by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #29 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:28:28 AM EST
  1. Fair point but to be honest I can't see myself being bothered.
  2. There is delusion on the part of the person who barely knows me and thinks we have something more than we do having met twice. I do not feel delusional, I am fully aware of my situation and regardless of how it may seem, am managing to function pretty well really. I can live with the fact that we probably won't get back together, it just isn't how I want things to be. Don't think that classifies as delusional. Not only that, but as per your point 1, you should be saying 'appears to be delusional'.
  3. Unconvinced by whether I'd pick a phone up or not? You sir, read too much into things. If it makes your delusional radar happy, then yes, you're right, the reason I didn't answer the phone to anyone yesterday is in case I took a call from the Spanish girl, in case C overheard and in case that annoyed (or meant anything to) her in some way. Not because I was knee deep in flooring. 
I don't have much of a sense of humour today.

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Do the words raw and nerve mean anything to you... by Alice Pulley (2.00 / 0) #31 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:32:29 AM EST
...by the way?

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'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

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Generally by DullTrev (4.00 / 1) #33 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:34:37 AM EST

They mean target. But I'll lay off.


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DFJ?
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dooooooomed? by Dr H0ffm4n (2.00 / 0) #37 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 11:44:13 AM EST


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Fair enough by DullTrev (4.00 / 1) #32 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 09:32:55 AM EST

I shall stop teasing you then.


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*ahem* by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #39 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 06:33:07 PM EST
Jarhead is a nickname for a Marine not a soldier in the U.S. Army.

The Marines are their own separate branch of the US military. 
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You know what is funny? I voted for McCain in 2000 and Obama in 2008. (And let's not forget Edwards in 1998.)


Learn from this: by dmg (4.00 / 1) #40 Mon Feb 06, 2006 at 07:02:14 PM EST
Yesterday, I didn't reply to a text she sent because I was in the middle of doing my bathroom floor. By the time I picked my phone up I had 2 further texts asking if she had done anything wrong and if I was upset with her. I received a further text at 2:30am this morning saying she missed me and wished she was with me.

Ignoring girls is one of the best weapons in a PUA's arsenal. It will always work like a charm - even when you don't really want it to. You should apply this technique (which demonstrably works) to other targets...
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